Adoptee/Birth Parent/Search Support Forum
Welcome to our new, improved, free search forum which has been designed through the generous donation of Doug and Paula Dillhoff. Both are working diligently at this task and we thank them!!! You can send changes to them (and kudos also!) at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Reminder from Gregoire IMPORTANT F.Y.I. birth dates: Adoptees should be aware that birth dates have been known to be changed by a few days eitherway. This was to prevent birth mothers from reaching the children. Keep this in mind when conducting your search, and when interviewing people.
Here is the information I have:
There is also a Usenet group where you can post at alt.adoption.
Also see Adoptees Mailing List: http://www.webreflection.com/staff/dkress/.
It would be helpful to find a support group near you of people who are searching also. They can give you help about how to go about it too. You can find this information from American Adoption Congress or National Adoption Information Clearinghouse at email@example.com.
For Information regarding where to be located and if someone is looking for you, Please register with the 'International Soundex Reunion Registry' in Carson NV.. This is their full address as sent to me;
I.S.R.R. P O Box 2312 Carson NV 89702
For further information you may call them at area code 702_882_7755.
They are really worth the time and effort to register.
Also check with AAC (American Adoption Congress). The AAC is a non-profit organization which is trying to reform adoption laws, & supports open records for adult adoptees seeking their original birth names. They have a quarterly newsletter which has educational articles on adoption issues (birth parents & adoptee). The address is AAC, 1000 Connecticut Ave., N.W., Suite #9, Washington, DC 20036; phone (202) 483-3399
Good Advice from reader
I was adopted when I was 5 years old. Before that I had been in several foster homes. I did not associate with any of the people I couuld remember from that time. I grew up in a good home, with good people. But, as we all know, that sense of really belonging was not there. I found out that trying to find anything out from the state of New York was worthless. But I did know my birth name, and where I was born. Last September a thought crossed my mind. The state cannot seal birth notices in newspapers. I contacted the paper in my birth city and requested a copy of the birth announcements for my birthday. Well, the paper didn't have the old issues from that date, but they said that the library did. The library found the announcements and mailed me a copy. In the announcement was my fathers name, and more importantly, my mothers maiden name. It was an unusual name, so I pulled up a list of phone numbers with that name in my birth city. Two calls later I was speaking to my uncle, who said that they had been looking for me for years. I have mentioned the birth notice approach to others I know. One person found her birth mother within a few weeks. It works if you know your family name and where you were born. Even if you don't have your family name, as long as you know where and when, it may start the ball rolling. firstname.lastname@example.org
Information about getting birth certificates, death certificates,etc, listed state by state, is at http://www.cdc.gov/nchswww/texttoc.htm
Please see the following FAQs for adoptees, birthparents and searching
Birth Family Searching includes state by state resources and more
Especially for Adoptees includes resources and personal stories
Especially for Birth Family includes resources and personal stories
Starting a Search
How to Start
Internet Resources for Searching and see
Information on the International Soundex Reunion Registry & Jeff Hartung's page.
Also see http://www.webcom.com/kmc/adoption/faqs.html Kevin's site for hiring a professional searcher, and USA search groups.
The Canada-Wide National Registry Registry that holds names and information on adoptees, birth parents, and family members who wish to reunite with their birth families. Unlike the provicial registries, The Canada-Wide National Registry offers all Canadians the opportunity to register Canada-Wide. Many other services offered to Canadians who searching for their birth roots. Some programs are: Search Assistance, Free, sur-name.search, Free third party calls,The Family Finders News, etc. e-mail: email@example.com
Note: Check out any service carefully if you do decide to hire someone to help you search.