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See Miracle of Adoption Cards site
Any other ideas?
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Perhaps someone can help in LA...
In the meantime, contact Pact which deals soley with biracial adoptions.
Call LA County Adoptions at 213-738-4577. They should be able to steer you in the right direction.
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There is no money available that I am aware of (except loans) for international adoptions...you might consider a special needs adoption from the USA if you are in this country....every international adoption I know of costs more than a domestic adoption....There are kids available and you can receive a subsidy .... check out the info at our waiting kids site.
Also see information about financial considerations and ways to save money. Sorry I can't be more help. Anyone else have ideas on this?
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I searched for and found our son's birthfamily when he was 2 and we've had a great relationship with all his family....they have never intruded in our family nor have they tried to assume my role as "mom"....in fact we have 2 other adoptions which were open from the beginning which is one reason I actively looked for James' family too! My family reacted the same way....fearing his family would come steal him or take over our place as his parents...after 15 years, I can report I still feel the same way....we adore our birth families....they are extended family....more like distant aunts, uncles...but loving the child and giving him a sense of his/her roots and connectedness to the human race....While I acknowledge that this kind of openness is not for everyone, nor is it always possible, I think our kids have benefited from knowing whom they look like, why they were adopted and best of all, we have all kinds of crucial medical information which turned out to be a life saver in one case! I'll try to post your message --
Bi racial adoption
My Husband and I are a white couple considering adopting two African American children which we have fostered for three years. Their ages are 3 and 6. We live in a mainly white community and have concerns about the affect this will have on the children as they get older. We would appreciate any information on the joys and difficulties that we may experienceas they grow older. Thank you in advance.
kfernand@rocketmail.com
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Check out the following resources:
Our Reading Room has several articles about biracial families. (Especially see http://www.adopting.org/inter.html)
Also contact PACT which deals solely with these issues.
Is this Attachment Disorder
We adopted our son from overseas when he was 2 yrs 9 mo. He had been in an orphanage from the age of 2 - before that we know nothing. He's now a very healthy, active 14 yr old who is well liked and does fairly well in school. He has always been a hoarder of sorts, first with a penny collection and also, with batteries (he would remove batteries from everything). He has difficulty making choices, even what kind of candy bar to select. We feel its perhaps insecurity or feelings of inferiorty - to have at least if not more than everyone else. He has taken money from his sister and parents. It has occurred when a friend has spent money on trading cards or something and then we find a load of cards that our son has somehow bought. We talk with him and he's adamant that he did not take any money - but eventually relents. We talk to him about controlling impulses etc. but it can still occasionally be a problem. Is this connected to "attachment disorder"?
RoBoLaCl@aol.com
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Check info at Attachment Center.Grandparents rights
My daughter recently gave up her little baby in an open adoption. We didn't find out our daughter was pregnant until 3 weeks before the child was born and our daugher would not allow us to interfere in any way with the adoption. We did not have any luck trying to change her mind. As far as my daughter is concerned we are not even grandparents. What I would like to know is if we have any legal rights in regards to this baby - mainly to receive pictures and information about the baby and for the baby to know who we are as she grows. We do not want to interfere in the baby's life or in the adoption. We would just like to know how she is doing and that she has a birth family who loves her. Thank you. Impact of Search on Adoptive Parents
I have been looking for other parents who have had to deal with the emotional impact of birth parents finding their adopted children. My son is grown and his birth mother has recently found him. He allowed the initial contact, and enjoyed the experience of finding out about his heritage. My emotional response has been much greater than I thought it would be, and though I had realized that my grown children could possibly initiate their own search, I was taken back by the "find" on the birthmother's part. There is much information available for those seeking, but I haven't heard much in regard to the impact on the adoptive parent.Thanks for any information you may have, or support group you could put me in touch with.
jbenson@exis.net
Input for book.
I am a birthmom who is writing a book, scheduled to be published next spring. I am looking for poems and letters from adoptees, adoptive parents, and birth parents to include. The final chapter of the book will express a variety of sentiments by various people.
Name, address, and phone number must be included, and people whose letter or poem will be included will be contacted. Please also state your connection to adoption (adoptee, birth family relationship, adoptive family relationship). Names can be changed in the book to respect privacy.
Patricia Florin
Submissions should be sent to: pjflorin@jeffnet.org
do it your self adoption?
Is there a packet that is avalible to do it yourself private adoption? Like a do it yourself "Will"? If not why?
placards@isgroup.net
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There are ways to do your own paperwork. You need to get and file the appropriate forms, which vary from state to state. However, you need to have a homestudy done by an approved agency or social worker.....again, depending on the states, the rules are different.Chinese Babies
My husband and I heard about a non-profit organization which is saving female Chinese babies and finding families for them in the U.S. and other countries. We also heard that there was an article on this subject in last month's issue of Woman's World and that the article had mentioned the group would be in South Texas some time soon.
Are you aware of anything on this subject? We are unable to obtain a copy of the Woman's World issue that had the article I mentioned, so I was hoping that someone could help me find out more about this particular group, or if anyone happened to have access to this magazine, whether they wouldn't mind
sharing the information with us.
Victoria E. Kelley
VChrisKell@aol.com Open Adoption
6 months ago my husband and I adopted a beautiful, healthy baby girl. She is such a blessing to both of us. Not only is she beautiful, but she has a wonderful disposition and everyone says she is advanced for her age. We never expected to be even half as lucky as we are! Add to that we were blessed with her wonderful birthmom and half brother (6 years old). We were very scared about open adoption but after meeting our baby's birthmom our adoption became fully open very quickly. We talk about once a month and get together every couple of months. We all agree the children should grow up knowing that they are brother and sister. We doubt is we will ever be able to afford another adoption and our daughter's birthmom had her tubes tied when Carly was born so we know her son will never have any other siblings either. It wouldn't be fair to either child to keep them apart. Does anyone have any suggestions on the best way to make this work. We luckily only live about an hour from each other. Thanks
Bridgets@prodigy.net
Adoption from a Girl I Know
I am considering adopting a baby from a girl I know. Since we already know each other, what is the first for me to take? Do all adoptive parents have to have a home study? How much would this cost?
jrobak@seidata.com
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Yes, you need a home study and the cost is usually around $1500 for everything...visits and paperwork...You can contact an agency near your home and tell them you want to do an "identified adoption" and see what the costs are...check out list of agencies by state . You can also check with attorneys at that page who do independent adoptions. They are listed near the bottom of the states pages.
Jewish Transracial support
My name is Marcie Rabinowitz and I am the 'mother' part of a two (Caucasian) parent family with four Caucasian children ( some birth,some step,some adopted) and two Afican-American sons. We are a transracial family with another twist - we are also a practicing Jewish family. We have been a transracial family for almost 7 years. On 7/23/97, we will be attending ( again) the PA STATE ADOPTION CONFERENCE in Harrisburg, PA. We will be taking our youngest three children this time too. I explained to them that there will be other families similar to ours and that many of the children are also going to be adopted. They were thrilled about the vacation, the pool, the hotel, etc. After a few moments, my youngest son ( 7 ) asked if the kids were going to be Jewish also.I couldn't help but laugh. .. On a serious side however, I am interested in trying to locate other transracial Jewish families for conversation, support, and questions. Could you office direct me to an appropriate place to do research?
Marcie Rabinowitz
YIDKYDZ@MAIL.SUNLINK.NET
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Try the following sites:
Pact and
Rabbi Gold's Site
Maternity Leave for Adoption?
My husband and I will adopt an infant from China in December 1997. I wonder what is the law regarding leave of absent from work. Do I get any maturity leave benefit at all? Please help. Thanks.
Shelley
lew_shelley@allergan.com
Talking to Your Child About Adoption
At what age is a good time to tell your child that he is adopted? What books do you recommend I should read to prepare for this moment?
Hilda Cardenas
ids4u@aol.com
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Check out the information at the following site:
Once You've Adopted
Also, see books at
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