Skye's Writings

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Skye's Writings Breaking Birthmother Myths

Having your cake and eating it too!

First Mother

That Which Makes Us Real

Five Comments a Birthmom Wants to Hear

To Judge Without Knowing

Replacing Emily

Interview with Tara, recent Birthmom

No One Told Me

Living with Choices

Left Unspoken

The Dress

Carried

The Duck Story

The Path of Motherhood

To My Daughter's Mother

Five Comments NOT to say to a Birthmother

Two Different Kinds of Love

Living Through the Impact: Voicing Our Needs

Q&A...Skye will answer your questions about the adoption process

Question 1
Handling the post birth time in the hospital

Question 2
Does Time heal the pain?

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On November 30 1998, I gave birth to a beautiful little girl named Emily. By my choosing, I also became a Birthmother three days later. Not only am I a Birthmother; I am also Mom to my son, Isaiah. I have been on both sides, placement and parenting, and do not regret either choice.

I chose a very open adoption, with visitation, and it is
going quite well. I am a strong advocate for openness, and feel open adoption education is imperative for all considering adoption as an option. I believe a woman considering adoption has a right to know all that the choice before her entails, as well as her options other than adoption. Then and only then, can she make a sound and informed choice.

I believe there can be healing after the adoption
choice. By God's hand there can be beauty for ashes and an oil of joy instead of despair. I am passionate about the issues Birthmothers are faced
with, but also other issues affecting women such as: father/daughter relationships;
eating disorders; co-dependant relationships; single parenting; and crisis pregnancy.
Currently, I am attending Youngstown State University. Next year, however, I will be transfering to Geneva - a Christian-based college where I will be working for an Associate in Social Work; followed by a Masters in the Science of Organizational Leadership.

My work can be found can be found on various adoption-related websites. As well as books and newsletters. I hope to have my first book out for the public Summer 2003. I am the founder/manager for an online Christian support community for both Birthmothers and Adoptive Mothers called 'Two Different Kinds of Love'. I am also the founder of 'Beauty for Ashes' - a Birthmother ministry/support group which is in it's beginning stages. I hope to have it up and running in the Western Pa area by summer 2003.

If you are a Birthmother who is struggling with all the emotions you are dealing with after placement; an Adoptive Parent who has questions about how to improve the relationship with their child's Birthmother; or anyone else touched by adoption - feel free to email me at: Lifemother@earthlink.net

It is a blessing to be here at Adopting.org to form friendships and supportive ties with those touched by adoption. After I placed my daughter, Adopting.org was one of the first places in which I found support as a Birthmother. I am honored to be in the position to share my work as well as offer assistance to those who now stand where I once stood; as well as learn from those who walk a path different from my own.