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Sorry or Not

From: Evelyn

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I was wondering if any of you adoptees who have searched have been sorry or not that you have searched and how did you feel afterwards I have searched and located several of my family members and it has been a mixed bag of emotions. I only wish all the TV reunions would explore this issue futher. I was a graymarket baby. At least that what is what I was told Can anyone tell me more about that issue. In l946 there was a lawyer in Maryland doing a study of the money hold up in adoption cases.

I am confused but I know it all ties in somehow.

My story is interesting I was the only one of four children given up for adoption. I met my birthmother, my birthfather, and one of my sisters. I spoke to one sister only by phone and I came extremely close to meeting my birthbrother last thanks-giving but didn't and now I never will. He passed away this year just before thanks-giving. I was the first one his wife notified. It made me feel special but also raised more questions. Why was I the first to be notified. As I said I was the only one of the four given up for adoption. I wondered and am still wondering was I listed as a surviving relative did I have a right to be? I was legaly adopted by another family but he was my birth brother I considerd him my brother but I also consider the brother I was raised with my brother, Can anyone outthere understand where I am coming from. I think I am going to sign off while I am head. Evelyn

Oh yes another thing interesting I thought I was the only one given up for adoption I was the only one who searched and I was the one who had to notify y bithmother her son had passed away and what happened. I sent a message of condolance to my brothers wife and signed it you Un official Sister-in-law I wasn't sure and am still not about titles per say. Oh yes one more little funny detail I was not legally adopted until I was 22 years old and even then it was a hassle because my adoptive mother was a single mom at the time. My adoptive father had passed away before they could finalize the paperwork. Even though I was in their home from the time I was 6 week old.