Open Adoption...how open should it be?
how open should adoption be....
Open Adoption...how open should it be?
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how open should adoption be....
From: sara
Date: 07 Jan 1999
Time: 23:19:07
Remote Name: nwmr01m08-125.bctel.ca
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I'm 36 years old and was adopted at 10 days. I was reunited with my birth family 5 years ago. My adoption was sealed at birth, so being reunited was a very unexpected suprise. Shock describes the reunion process well. I think that growing up as an adopted child would have been much easier if there had been more information on my background. I had three pieces of information and two of them were incorrect. To have had a picture so I knew that I looked like someone in this world would have been wonderful. To have had SOME, ANY medical information would have been great! I used to wonder as a child if my birth mother remembered me..... Growing up is confusing for a child, especially in this day of divorce etc. (Fortunatly, that I didn't have to experience!) To give up a child that they can at least start out right,(there are no guarantees in life) I think is incredibly selfless. I think to give up a child on week days and visit weekends is wrong. I think to seal records so no one ever has the opportunity to know where they came from is wrong, to not allow the birthparents to have the right ever see that child again is inhumane. To not put the best interests of the child first before our desires is wrong. As a child I longed to see some pictures and to know what my history was. My birth mother longed to know I was alive and ok. I recently advised some friends of mine who recently had the privilege of adopting a baby to request some pictures for their child, to request all the background information they could get. I also suggested they might send a letter every 6 months to a year with a picture to the birth parens. I strongly advised them to encourage their child to meet the birth parents but not until after the child's 18th birthday. Life is confusing enough as a teen without throwing a reunion into the pot. I know as a child I did not want to meet my parents. a
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