Birth Fathers and searching ...
This article certainly will be a good starting point for the many that have decided to search for their children or children that have decided to search for their first parents.
It's interesting to me that, because of the nature of "birth" in general, it's harder for a father to search for his biological children than a mother. Because it is always obvious that a woman has given birth, the "proof" that she is the mother of a child is pretty indisputable. However, I'm aware that in some (and certainly not all!) cases, a mother that gives a child up for adoption either does not inform the father, or in some cases, does not know with absolute certainty who the father of her child is. Therefore, sometimes when years later, a woman decides to tell the person who is the father or she assumes to be the father, and he tries to search, he is unable to "prove" his relationship (without paternity testing). I'm certain that there are plenty of fathers searching for children out there that have run into obstacles because of the difficulty of proving years later that they are indeed the fathers of children. Even in cases where the mother is absolutely certain who the father is, you can't go back in time, and as this child grows up, enters adulthood, etc., it often becomes even harder to locate him/her. It's so rare to hear stories of fathers that have reunited with their biological children after years of separation, I'm sure because of the exclusion of their names or identities from birth records, etc., but I know there are those out there that have been successful. I'm sure there are similarly many men out there that would be searching if they knew, but they just never found out. To me, it's sad to think about that, because they didn't get a chance to form an opinion about a reunion or to make any sort of decision in the first place about the choice of adoption.
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10-05-2005, 09:50 AM
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