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My only question is did the woman keep the child after all? Obviously, this adoptive family did not properly prepare for this child or they would have read one of the hundreds of articles about Russian adoptees. If they had read the articles, then they would have had support measures set up in advance to be able to deal with this. Part of the blame should go to the adoption facilitator as well. They should have encouraged the family to learn more about attachment disorders so that they would know what to expect. Research is always a good thing when you are going into a different situation. Then you will have some idea of what to expect and will have some methods of dealing with the problems that may occur.

I am new to this site, but am writting because my daughters husbands adoptive mother adoted thier 3 girls after a lengthy court thing where my daughter was found guilty of child abuse. This was a great situation at the time as my health was failing due to emphasyma, but lately ( 3 years later) having heard many complaints from the girls about grandma , the aunt and great grandma. I guess they all share responsibility. Anyway, the girls have recently said that grandma has heart problems and heart too and it is thier fault because of the stress they put her thru, not to mention she still smokes, drinks mountain dew,(dr, said quit it). This angers me cause they were really upset today. I get to keep them Friday/sat. That is when dad isnt there. They tell me about being whipped ands made to do all the chores. Tese girls after being abused so badly by thier mother and father dont deserve to be treated this way. My heaslth now is better than the grandmothers, can I get custody away fromn her because of abuse? I am not a evil person, I have been happy with this situation till now.

First, I would call the child services in your area to report the abuse. Before any kind of custody can be arranged, the state needs to be involved to remove the kids from an abusive home.

But first, the priority is making sure the children are safe. If you feel they are being abused (not telling stories) then please report this ASAP!