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Continue reading Post-Adoption Contact Agreements - How To Make One

I think that in the case of open adoption that it is best to be honest with the birthmother in how much contact that you will be comfortable with. Otherwise, you will feel uncomfortable each time that you HAVE to have contact with them. If you lay down the contact rules before anything is signed then you will more likely be able to comply with them without the dread and fear that can be associated with some contact. Tell the birthmother what you would like and ask her what she would like. Then you can both try to get on the same page for the best of the child. After all, isn't that what you both want? The best for the child?