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I was there...only one RAD child, shes now 16, and we just kicked her out. Shes now living with my sister in law die to false allegations of abuse. She beat the crap out of me since she was 6 years old, and because im bigger than she is, im lying. She recently bit her own arm, shaved her own head, and dug her own nails in her arms and told her day treatment people that i was abusing her. Im still not over it. Charges were dropped, but im still soo hurt and torn. I love her soo much and miss her dearly, but not her drama. I have 5 other children at home, and she beat the crap out of them as well as my dogs. I KNOW how you feel!!!!
Amy, i feel that RAD is probably the most under diagnosed, and most difficult Mental disorder!!!
My daughter who was my step child, was raised by me since she was 4. Is now 16, and had claimed false allegations of abuse. Our entire family has endured treturous amounts of abuse from this child. She has beat on my defenseless animals. Tried throwing my 4 year old down the stairs, threw him up against the wall, scratched me, bit me, slammed my fingers in the doorway, called me countless names. The list goes on. Shes almost broke the ribs of my 11 year old daughter. After this last bit, we sent her to live with my sister in law.
I feel bad for her that her bio mom could leave her to defend for herself while she was a baby, but thats where it gets difficult. For many years, i was being labeled as the bad parent, i put limits on EVERYTHING for her. If i didnt, shed control me! They take every ounce of energy from you, and you get NOTHING in return, no i love yous, no thank you, NOTHING. These kids do not know how to love. They are truely superficial, and do not trust, no trust, no love!
I think if a person wants to get involved with thei type of child, they need a SUPER support system!! People who know that these kids will make false accusations, they try to push anyone out who tries to love them, and thats what my daughter did. I love her, sooooo much and still cry at night because i miss her, but she doesnt understand that, fears it and pushes me away.
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We are going through pretty much the same thing... We are a lot further along in the adoption process. It is very hard when one of your adult children are in the world doing things they shouldn't be...
I will start by saying this is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through in my life, the turmoil of relinquishing our grown child's rights to her own children has almost torn this family apart....