Good cause for reversing adoption!

[danielle2343]

When I was 15 I was coerced to put my child up for adoption. Now at 29 I have been married for over 7 years and am successful and have a small family. My daughter (adopted out) was adopted by an uncle & his wife. I have always had contact with her ( as a cousin) and my other children know that she is their sister. My issue is that recently I have obtained information that she has been through some very serious issues and is currently in an unstable environment. My uncle refuses to let me visit all of a sudden with no explanation (he even agrees to a visit then disappears with my daughter when I arrive) Is there any way or just cause that would aide me in reversing an adoption???I realize that this will emotionally hurt her but I will provide support and any needed services. How do you go about a reversal and what are my chances of getting her back after such a long period of time.?

[Crick]

If the adoption was done on the up and up and legally, there is no reverse procedure. Adoption is for life and unless your uncle signed off on his rights and you adopted your bio child, there isn't a way to do this that I know of.

If you have valid concerns for your dd though, if her safety is compromised, I would contact social services. If she's being abused, then she needs to be pulled out of that home until they can investigate. It might be that you can foster her during this time.

Unfortunately though, if there is no legal/safety reason to remove her from the home, I don't see that you could do this. I'm sure it's upsetting, but your uncle is not obligated to allow contact with you and that reason will not hold water in trying to go through the courts. And making any kind of allegation against him that would put your dd in foster care etc., that's a difficult situation for your dd. I would not do this unless you truly believe she's in danger or there is illegal activities going on in the home etc.

Is there any other family members that could talk to him and let him know that contact would be a good thing? To be more involved in her life?

[danielle2343]

Well I have an appointment in the AM with a lawyer to see if I can prove good cause and / or what I can do how long it will take ect ect. I do beleive that she is in a bad situation but I would hate for her to get back in the hands of social service. Her Adopive mother had called on my uncle (her adoptive father, now divorced) and proved it so but he got her back. I would hate to see that happen allover again
But thanks for replying

[lynnrose]

Why does the adoptive Mom not have custody, do they share vistation. If your b daughter is in harms way,will the Adoptive Mom back you up,the emotional damage that is done will be hard to reverse but can be done. The emotional confusion that will occur if you do get her out of there,kids don't understand those who try to help them, they only know they have lost the only family they have ever known. It will take time and patience, and an understanding of there pain, to see them thru. Good luck to you !