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| From Harold Will the woman be prosecuted for trying to sell the child? If not, why not? This is a crime against humanity or has the value of a child been brought down to mere money? Can the "authorities" do anything about this matter or do they/ we not care? Thank you for being able to tell us the facts. |
| From Alomapixie I have researched with keen interest the adoptions in the Baltic regions and have yet to participate. Curiously one of the saddest tales was by Diane Sawyer in a lengthy tv feature... I had wondered if she like reporter Nellie Bly in the days of old didn't do the story as part of a personal desires to bring back a child to the States....As a journalist myself I don't usually cry when watching the news, but these children on the Sawyer story clearly had all kinds of "special needs" but most looked fine on the outside. What this internet woman did was clearly wrong on many counts, but perhaps she was ignorant of the actual situation she was signing up for when she adopted in a foreign land....And what Russia is doing with their special needs kids. Curiously in the T.V. report the Russian people sent there kids away for the smallest physical imperfections and sometimes this created a bigger problem than the kid was born with, emotionally..... This of course does not excuse it, in all situations biological children or adopted ones there are no guarantees.....clearly she had not heard the old carnival saw you pays your money you takes your chances.....a tragic story indeed. I would like to know, where is the kid now, that's the important part of the story. The kid. Sincerely and waiting to read other responses, and I look forward to reading other stories the sucessful, happy ones....Also I have wondered if these kids in Kosovo need homes and how much Post Traumatic Stress would be a problem there. |
| From DB ...this is beyond sad... I thought no one was to sell another human being in this country since the civil war.. isn't this one of the reasons we have troops in kosovo for the right of freedom... this woman should do community service for 20 years + spend every lunch hour in a popular town square with the account of what she has done and be able to throw tomatoes or pies at her.. shame can be a good thing.. shame can put ones priorities back in order.. people like her is what Hitler counted on to further his sickness against others! we cannot tolerate such behavior, especially towards such an young child.. there are other alternatives.. her selfishness is in full bloom, which has nothing to do with her depression!!!!!!!! what is happening to the young girl now?? |
| From Patricia what a strange world that allows a manic depressive to adopt a child, especially one with the problems that this one has. |
| From Lynne-Marie These types of stories hurt my heart... this poor child is old enough to know what is going on...and what her 'mother' (I use the term loosely) tried to do even if it was in the name of trying to find a better home. Obviously the mother was able to access online and such...there are so many resources! So many places to go for help... She acted as if her child was/is a puppy....Well I don't think it is fair to an animal to bounce from home to home either!...so lets not go there!. |
| From Jerolyn I heard about this situation by word of mouth and I couldn't believe it. I was sure the person must have been mistaken. Now I wonder. I have been to Russia five times to help with orphanages. Last year my project was to take dolls and toys to the children and it was very successful. If only people understood how many children there are in these Russian orphanages and how much they need good parents for these children. I also see that there is a business of orphan children in Russia. Please write about this. |
| From Barbara I am very outraged about this! Why wasn't there more of an investigation on the women that adopted the child? I am 47 yrs old and would love to adopt a child but unfortunately I waited to long and now I'm too old to adopt but I will always be there for a child if they need me. I help take care of 3 children that the parents don't have time for. I always have time for them and they always come first in my life. I pray that this women will be punished for her attempts. |
| From Jessica Obviously what Thomas did (trying to sell her adopted daughter) was reprehensible. It is however, the kind of story that is very simplistic on the surface: evil, wicked mother mistreating a sweet, innocent child - a child that didn't even have language to communicate. Somehow I think there's much more to the story than that, though I'm sure people will jump on the witch burning bandwagon without even trying to look further. Foreign adoptions are the most complex of all. Not only are there the language and cultural difficulties, but many times children have been thrown away by their birth parents and left to languish during their formative years - the years when normally they would be learning to bond - in warehouses of similar children. Your story brought up many questions. Why did the Thomas' originally try to adopt their daughter? How could a manic-depressive be allowed to adopt (I ask this because Thomas cites it as her defense on why she herself was not qualified)? Where was her husband? What are the fees (Thomas said the orig adoption cost $12,500) paid to the adoption agency called? Somehow in our world of euphemisms, this fee is acceptable where what Thomas did is wrong. (I'm questioning both fees, not trying to condone Thomas' actions.) |
| From Stacey My fiancee is adopted, and we have often discussed what motivation adoption agencies have in making the adoption process such a grueling affair. Now I realize that it is to save orphaned children from exactly the kind of fate this little girl could have faced. Her adopted mother indiscriminately tried to sell her to who-knows-who, perhaps even a sexual criminal. Children are not commodities to buy and sell to the highest bidder. |
| From Lori I read your story and it reminded me of a story I read in the paper. A 15 year old girl was picked up in California for panhandleing. She told the police her grandmother had sold her to a couple because she was pregnant. They threw her out when she miscarried. Her grandmother had sold her three times before that and she had run away before. The police returned her to her grandmother because it is not illigal to sell children in Arkansas. This woman should have never been given a child from any agency because she was manic deppressive. This disease is never really under control. Thanks for your time. |
| From L It is very sad the way adults treat children, no matter who, what, wherethe child comes from. I'm the single parent of and autistic ADHD boy. My son's father turned to me when our son was 9 months old and said I can't do this any more, it's too difficult. So he left us, then fought me in court for placement of his son for three years. He got what he wanted, then didn't want as much time with his son because is was interfering with his dating. Then just recently my son's child support was adjusted and his father said he couldn't spend as much time with his son because he couldn'tafford it. This behavior is not the exception in the way children get treated in this country. This is the average. We are a disposable society. If I litter, and think twice about that behavior. That lifestyle would extend itself into the rest of my life and belief systems. It's simple, not easy, just simple. One serious concern I do have about children coming into this country, is that they should be tested for HIV/aids. The health facilities in the former soviet union and ugoslov. countries is unbelievabliy poor and ignorant in their practices for treating minor illnesses, like low iron in the the body. A common practice for that would be a blood transfusion. |
| From Lee We take greater care in choosing the breed of dog which would be best for our family than we do in adopting a child? Surely we are all now aware of the psychological problems that these abandoned children, especially the older ones, can exhibit. We cannot just expect to be able to jetison the child if he/she proves unsuitable. But the government must not take charge. "The government which rules least rules best." Thomas Jefferson |
| From Annette I think it's so sickening that this woman had the nerve to go on the Internet and try to give up the child she adopted for an adoption! First of all she knew there was a language barrier between her and this child, second she doesn't deserve to have children period! Then she claims shehas depression or what ever it is? Well that is what most psychos decide to use as their reason for doing wrong. I hope she has no children of her own and hope she serves time in a nut ward! Thanks for listening. |
| From Eileen The idea of selling an adopted child is pathetic. What is even morepathetic is the fact that in this country (and I suppose all others, as well) we do not have adequate pre- and post-adoptive counseling, training, and support. There are too many children who have been adopted that have attachment problems. I am finding that even the children who are adopted at birth and never knew their birth families have attachment and loss issues.We need to find professionals who can address these issues and can offer concrete help to prevent these disrupted adoptions. Does anyone know of sources of help? I know Dr. Foster Cline and Kathy Helding do an excellent job with their work on attachment. Are there others out there? |
| From "Been There, Still There" I am an adoptee. I was a make-up kid (parents who fought, made up by having sex & i was the result). I am the youngest of 11. my full sister 2 yrs older than i is also a make-up kid. i feel the weight of the adoption i went through. my adoptive father, whom i love dearly & still recognize as my dad, died when i was 8. my step-father was not so loving. if we even so much as misstepped on his rigid path of discipline there was an ever present threat to "be given away since we were only adopted." if someone is going to commit to adoption, it should be for life. an adoptee, no matter how good the new home is, feels the weight of not being wanted, not being acceptable or good enough. it is only the grace of God that kept those issues from being something i acted upon. my adoptive brothers acted in a poor manner on those very issues. for this mis-led woman to try to sell her child for $4000 is unthinkable. is she such a pantywaist that when the going got tough she couldnt stomach it? she shouldnt have ever been allowed to adopt. perhaps agencies should paint an extreme picture on both ends of spectrum so that prospective adoptees have to face the reality. often there will be bonding issues as well as others. if you have done as much research as i have, as well as first hand experience, you will understand this. however, this understanding should lead you to empathy & not greed for the easiest dollar. that woman doesn't deserve a child if she will sell to the highest bidder. that is a LIFE w/generational impact. |
| From Dan Why should this story make anyone mad? The Texas couple were payinghigh dollar for this child. In the past 10 years, 3 million children have been killed in wars all over the globe. In Guatemala and other third world countries, unwanted street children are killed in the thousands by security guards (public policemen by day) and their bodies dumped in the water ways. World wide, 45 million children are murdered by ABORTION EACH AND EVERY YEAR! All these children are worth nothing. In fact; they are a nuisance, they are worth less than nothing. People pay and receive large sums of money to rid the world of such unwanted, useless, and inconvenient flesh. What I am angry about is the failure of adoption professions and law makers to make adoption easier and more profitable than infanticide. |
| From Teresa I am outraged. I have not considered adopting a foreign child (although I might some day) and even I know that they often have many problems adjusting. The system failed this little 8 year old girl and I hope that the agency that gave her to the woman who actually believed that selling her to another family was ok will do right by that girl. There are many families out there with the love necessary to raise her. The couple in Texas may actually be a good choice. After all, here you have a couple who truly wants a child that called the authorities when they found out what the "mother" was doing instead of satisfying their own desire for parenthood. |
| From Michael SEND THE B**** TO RUSSIA THANK YOU |
| From Lea Ann I am a 26 year old who is soon to be married. My fiance & I arestarting a family ASAP. We've been together for eight years and want to start a family now. I have been told that I may have trouble conceiving. This has me nervous, but I know that we will adopt if we are unable to have children ourselves. This story disgusted me. It is incredible that we live in a society where it is harder to adopt a pet than a child. If you go to the humane society, they have forms and you must pass their inspection. Only adoption agencies have these same safeguards and then you still can't be sure. How can people treat a childlike a piece of unwanted junk that you get rid of at a yard sale?Something should be done to this woman so she can not do something like this again. |
| From Sharon Hi...I read your article about the little Russian girl. This type of thing really makes me angry...I don't feel people should be able to bring any of these foreign children into this country to adopt unless they can pass all the requirements necessary to adopt a child in this country. Also ..there are plenty of children in this country that need homes..they should have to adopt these children first. There are a lot of people in this country that need help...but some people want to drag foreigners over here so they can help them instead of their own countrymen. Thanks for letting me get that off my chest. |
| From Trenrace Every day we are shown that there is no wrong anymore. Only levels of right. If they can get away with it, why can't I? I am saddened, frustrated, and frightened by the turn of events in America today. No one wants to take responsibility, and our childrens lives have already been given away. Usually not to a caregiver, but to an exploiter. As far as the woman in Colorado. It is fortunate that someone cared enough to turn her in. She felt that it was the right thing for her to do, so it had to be right for everyone. What could be wrong with that? |
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