Coincidence Makes the Perfect Family
It wasn't long before we were again in the same agency office, meeting another potential birth mother. She was impressed by the photo album. This young woman already had one child -- a boy. He and our daughter were about the same age and went off with a social worker to play while we chatted and got to know each other. Again the meeting went well, and again we have the pictures to prove it.
If only there wasn't another again...
Yes, again the young woman changed her mind. Actually, her father laid a guilt trip on her and she reluctantly responded by keeping the baby. Her future as she had envisioned it would probably never be realized. She wanted to go back to school. That might not happen with two children to care for.
Our plans were dashed too. Although we had been through this once before, we were still shaken. But, again our faith carried us through, and again the phone rang with good news.
It was 1988 and I'll never forget that day or where I was when the call came. The agency had another baby girl for us, and they asked if I was sitting down. I did. This child had the same birth mother as our daughter. Our family was complete when our youngest came to us at three weeks old.
It is unbelievable that
if both mothers hadn't changed their minds, we would have gotten different children. It is unbelievable that
if the timing of any one of so many events had been different, our girls would have gone to different adoptive parents.
The coincidences behind this are amazing. The birth mother didn't get pre-natal care and just showed up at the hospital to give birth. She then indicated she wished to place her first daughter. The agency placed the child in their foster home and after a short re-hospitalization for an ear infection, placed the girl in our home.
Almost three years later, the same woman showed up at the same hospital and gave birth to another daughter. She left the hospital the next day and, through a communications breakdown, the hospital thought she had abandoned the baby. She was placed in a state foster home.
After contacting the child's mother and clearing the confusion, the state called our agency. They could have called a number of other agencies, but they called ours -- and immediately the workers knew where the baby would be placed. Our youngest came to us at three weeks old, already with a special bond to her sister.
Are you ready for more? The coincidences didn't stop there. We got the call about our first daughter the day before my husband's birthday in October. They not only share the same birth month, but they are both left-handed. We got the call about our second daughter the day before my birthday in June. She not only shares my birth month, but is also right-handed.
It has been interesting to watch the girls grow. Even though they have different birth fathers, they look similar enough that people get them mixed up. I can't imagine either of them not having each other and am delighted they are being raised in the same family.
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