Bonding & Attachment
Bonding & Attachment Bonding and attachment are two very different but very important processes every new parent should know something about.
- Bonding is "falling in love" with your child and your child with you. Bonding problems are rare and those that do not resolve themselves within a few weeks, rarer still. With infants, bonding can be instantaneous. With older children and teens, it will take time. You must get to know each other and build on friendship and commitment. Once this process is complete, the bond is just as strong, no matter the age of the child.
- Attachment is much more complicated than bonding. Attachment is a process of trust. Children who were abused and neglected or had multiple caregivers in the first year of life may be incapable of trust and have some degree of an attachment disorder. Since attachment problems are not uncommon, before adopting any child over age 2 years, you should request a copy of the child's most recent "comprehensive psychological evaluation." This document should include at a minimum:
- an IQ,
- an attachment potential evaluation,
- psychological, medical and learning test results,
- a social history and
- recommendations for any therapies the child might need, for example speech therapy, physical therapy or psychiatric therapy.
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This is a wonderful article for prospective adoptive parents to read to learn more about bonding and attachment. It is very important for prospective adoptive parents to understand that sometimes when they adopt, that the child may have problems with attachment. Knowing the signs and symptoms of an attachment disorder will help them to treat it earlier. Learning more about bonding and attachment can only help the relationship between parent and child. Asking for the comprehensive psychological evaluation will help you to be able to prepare for this child by talking to doctors, therapists, etc.
Posted by: culinary at 12/06/2005 05:18 AM
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