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Finding My Birth Family - A Story of Adoption Search and Reunion - Part 2

Was It Worth It?

More of this Feature PART TWO - REUNION • First Contact • To Meet Him or Not? • Mistur Andirsun • Was It Worth It? PART ONE - SEARCH

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So, was the search worth it? Did I find what I was looking for? Yes, and yes. I found that I got the best deal in all of this. I couldn't have asked for a better family or a better life. I also feel like all of the missing pieces are now in place. I am complete.

In some ways, I got much more than I bargained for. I wasn't (and I'm still not) prepared to deal with Betty's grief, guilt, loss, renewal, or hope. She's had a hard life and giving me up has played a huge part in it. I know this is part of the roller coaster ride of reunions so, I think, one day, when things settle down, we can be friends. Being just friends may be hard for her to accept, but she's going to have to because I already have a Mommy.

Oh, and by the way my endocrinologist was right. I'm actually the skinny sister in a family of horizontally challenged women.

Note from Brigid's Mom

This is the second time around for me. My second youngest daughter, Jane, has been in contact with her birth family for almost 5 years now. In fact, she's considering moving in with her half sister. The difference this time is that Jane's family searched for her, not the other way around, as it was with Brigid.

During Jane's reunion, I sent a letter toher letting her know that my prayers were with her for whatever happened once Pandora's Box was opened. I wished the same thing for my youngest.

One other thing I'd like to mention is that with eight children, our house was always open to the kids' friends and families. We considered them to be our extended family. I feel the same way about both of my daughters' birth families. They are welcome in my life as well.

PART TWO: REUNION
Page 4: First Contact
Page 5: To Meet Him or Not?
Page 6: Mistur Andirsun
Page 7: Was It Worth It?

PART ONE: SEARCH
Page 1: Getting Started
Page 2: Stepping Out on the Web
Page 3: Finding a Woman Named Jones
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