Divorce After Adoption - Preparing to Divorce
Preparing to Divorce7. When divorce is imminent, ask your spouse to pledge to keep the long-term picture in mind. You both won't always feel so emotional. Taking the time to put the kids first now, and to promise mutual cooperation will ensure a bright future for all.
8. Research options together, if possible. Do-it-yourself divorce kits are usually not compatible with marriages that involve children. But attorneys and adversity are not required either. Look into divorce mediation services first. These may be non-profit or may be part of a divorce attorney's practice. Ask for recommendations, interview several or ask them to send you information packets.
9. Don't wait until the last minute to tell your parents, your boss, close friends, and other relatives about your upcoming divorce. Give them time to adjust to the idea You will need their support later.
10. Do not secretly plan your divorce while pretending to be happily married. (If you fear for your safety or the safety of your children, contact a woman's shelter and the local police department for advice.) When safety is not the issue, springing this decision on your spouse suddenly and refusing them the time needed to adjust to the idea before you leave is needlessly cruel. Both parties need to know what is coming. Tying the knot is a mutual decision so untying it should be, too.
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Adoption and Divorce: Facts & FantasyPage 3:
More Myths About DivorcePage 4:
Preparing to DivorcePage 5:
To-Do List: First WeekPage 6:
To-Do List: First Six MonthsPage 7:
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