Classic Comebacks to Annoying Things People Say About Adoption

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Shooting Ourselves in the Foot

AnomiaBogus: "The most annoying thing for me happens within the adoption community itself! I hate it when I say that my search went on for 15 years, and that even though I was once given a name and DOB for my birth mother, I was unable to locate my her. Someone is sure to say, 'Oh, well, just give ME your information and *I*'ll find her for you!' as if I'm incompetent after 15 years of experience! Then, when I tell them that the name is an alias, they try to tell me I just need to check variations of the spelling! If it was so simple, don't they think I'd've tried it by now?

Related to that is when I tell someone my birth mother refused to allow the release of information after being contacted by the agency and they either tell me I should've let THEM do the search or that I should just 'hang in there and maybe she'll change her mind!' She's had 50 years to deal with it. I don't think she's gonna change her mind!

Excuse the 'sermon' but some of us aren't looking to be FIXED as much as we are to be HEARD."

Teachers Should Know Better

LisaJoy: "I love my professor but I recently received an e-mail from her that said, 'I believe your birthmother must have loved you a great deal because she didn't have an abortion.' I'm still at a loss as to how to respond to this...she's adopted a child herself and I sure hope she never says that to her child. Proves you can give a person a PhD but they can still be clueless!"

M. Berk, Birthmother and Adoptee: "Comments from other high school teachers when talking about being an adoptee and birthmother:

English Teacher: 'Well, you know birthmothers don't want to be found.'
Classic Comeback: No thats just an URBAN MYTH. We do want to be found.'
And, 'I just can't understand why my friend's daughter wants to [search]. They have raised her just like their own.'
Classic Comeback: She IS their own.'
and later in the conversation...

Algebra Teacher: 'What?? You mean they let people who give away their kids adopt other kids later? Who would be that stupid?' (This was in reference to the fact that my birthmother adopted a child 10 years after placing me for adoption.)

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