Reactive Attachment Disorder
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poppyflr I can barely get the guy on the phone....
Johnsmom I works the other way around of course...........
JodyHOST i've been waiting 6 months for respite... nothing...
KAYDOC hard to get respite -
SusanMWJohnsmom, you mentioned working on compliance, that's one of my big issues with Hannah. She just has to be in control and do it HER way...
KimHOST That is a difficult situation poppy, you are all in limbo
Johnsmom oh i like the marker thing Jody
Johnsmom Yes Susan I know the feeling.
poppyflr these four youngsters are so needy....it's hard to do anything with my own children...and mine are 11, 13, 15
Chat Moderator Susan, I'm sure you're aware of it - but as one who did it, I have to remind you that RAD kids are wonderful "yes" men... yes you to death and do it our way...
SusanMW I like that..."yes" men...good phrase!
KimHOST Is reunification still the goal of the case plan, poppy?
poppyflr yes...I just received the case plan in the mail yesterday....after I sent the caseworker the FL statues as to my rights
Johnsmom What I do, is give instructions and when he messes it up or changes the way he is doing it from the way I said to do it then he is done, and I take over and he spends time in his room to give him time to be ready to be a part of the family and do it my way.
SusanMW Does he go to his room easily?
Johnsmom he didn't at first, now he goes, stomping sometimes, mumbling others - but he goes.
SusanMW I bet that's big progress...!
KAYDOC ignoring the stomping mumbling and throwing can be hard to do
Johnsmom if he ever whines while doing chores then I say "thank you for letting me know you are tired and need a nap" and off to his room he goes. then we try again in about 30 minutes
Johnsmom oh yes, and You have to do it with no emotion on you face.
poppyflr I like that! "thank you for letting me know you are tired and need a nap...." can I use that?
JodyHOST absolutely...no bells and whistles allowed!
Johnsmom yes! and you say it matter of factly
SusanMW Hannah goes sometimes...other times she just attacks me...although that is less and less often due to our great therapist, well, and to me, maybe a little bit...
Johnsmom you also use "thank you for letting me know you are not strong enough to handle that right now. No problem I will do it for you."
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