Reactive Attachment Disorder
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poppyflr ok...the picture is getting clearer.
JodyHOST i do that with all of my kids....also I have stuffed animals that were mine as a child...the kids sleep with them at night....
Johnsmom yes the book even states you can use a bottle while doing the "cuddle time" - we dont he is 12 and sucked his thumb up till about last year
SusanMW I do nursery rhymes with Hannah, play patty cake...all the things she missed...
JodyHOST Another thing I do is leave them notes under their pillows....
KAYDOC if my children dont do the chores responsibly - then they get to sit and watch me then go and finish theirs
SusanMW I use a bottle with Hannah, not often now, but once in a while.
poppyflr I think I'm discovering a problem I'm having.....I will be real honest here... I don't want to get too attached and then have to hand them over to an abusive mother again.
KAYDOC I have heard of people having success with bottles
Johnsmom I have definitely seen a big difference in John as far as relationships and bonding is concerned, we are still working on the attitude and the compliance
KAYDOC poppyflr - oh what a great gift you would be giving the child - a glance of what things can/could be like
SusanMW My therapist said RAD kids have a hard time keeping us inside them when we're out of sight. Writing notes, giving them pictures, or t-shirts of ours to wear, all help
JodyHOSTJohnsmom, that's wonderful news....when you're done with your son.....please feel free to come and fine tune mine.
Chat Moderator exactly Susan - out of sight out of mind really applies
JodyHOST poppy, I know it hurts....but love them as much as you possibly can.....
Johnsmom well Jody, are we ever DONE with our children? I mean I still feel like a work in progress my self.
poppyflr so I should put my children on hold, do all this stuff with these four younger ones and then probably have it all unravel when I have to send them back to my sister?
JodyHOST I would also draw a happy face on their hand with a marker before they went to school or give them a cheap piece of jewelry of mine to wear that day.
SusanMW or draw a heart over their heart
Chat Moderator poppy, have you talked to your caseworker about it?
Johnsmom yes I was giving John candy to take with him when he was away from me, by the way thats another part of it, sugar, it represents the "milk" from babyhood that they got from mom and helps build the bond
KAYDOC this is a hard one - poppy - try and have a balance - get respite so you can do things with your other children
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