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Information and resources for and about birth families, offering support, guidance, and insight. Explore your own feelings and read the words of others who are growing, healing, and searching.

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Birth Family Support & Organizations

Support resources and organizations for parents whose children were placed for adoption and their family members.

Birthfathers

Information and resources for and about birthfathers, men whose children were placed for adoption.

Birthmothers

Information and resources for and about birthmothers, women whose children have been placed for adoption.

Email Lists: Birth Parents & Families

Lists for birth/first mothers, fathers, and their spouses, partners, and parents.

Famous & Well-Known Birthparents (with biographies)

Famous people who are birth parents.

Grief, Loss, Shame & Guilt

Acknowledging grief over the loss of a child through adoption, and dealing with feelings of shame and guilt are important steps for parents who placed voluntarily and for those who did not. Find information and resources from parents and professionals.

Personal Pages: Birth Families

Personal Web pages created by birth parents and other birth family members around the world.

Search Issues

Some search, others do not. And adoptive parents are often concerned about search and the impact on the family. Resources for all groups.

Traditions: Welcoming New Babies in Open Adoptions

For birthparents who have placed a child in an open adoption, having a subsequent baby that will be kept in the family can be joyous, confusing, or difficult for the placed child. Educator Brenda Romanchik offers great suggestions.

Relinquishment and Adoption Are Different
Ron Nydam's 1995 paper puts forward the belief that adoptees and birth parents must come to terms with the difference between these two acts. Dr. Nydam is the author of Adoptees Come of Age.

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Rozi - 1 week ago
I am adopted, and it hurts me to think of my mother. She now has a son, I'm afraid that she loves me, she loves him and not me. I want to ask you mothers: what do you feel when you give the child up for adoption? I read that many mothers write "I really love my son." But what do you feel concretely for this child? My mother was happy to know that I'm okay, and that I seek her, but relatives say she was a bad woman, who did not care much about his children. Answer me please, you do not grow the children that you gave up for adoption, so I want to ask you: why do you love this child? what you feel for him? you worry for him? if hem die or has an accident do you worry as they worry her adoptive parents? the relationship that a (birth) mother has with her child is not the same relationship that you have with a child that you grow for a lifetime. My (adoptive) mother worries a lot to me, she loves me, she knows my character and how I react to events, my (birth) mother does not know anythi #1
Raisa - 6 months ago
I placed my baby for adoption. After i got home reality started to sink in. Ive be extremely depressed. I feel like a complete failure as a human being. I feel like if i couldn't parent my baby how can i parent my other children. I love my baby so much i honestly feel like im dying little by little. All because of a decision that i made. Even though i made that decision thinking of him and his future. Knowing that im not going to be able to give him what he truly deserves. I want him to have a life full of opportunities. Has anyone ever felt this way? #2
Michelle - 1 year ago
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I am looking for my son Raymond Blake Epperson. He was taken by C.P.S. in California in 2000,he was only 4 years old at the time. He has an older brother named Russell who was 11 and went to foster care also. They split them up right away. I was incarcerated for a year but was assured that no permanent decisions would be made until I got out. Two months before I was released they sent me a letter saying they were adopting Ray out and putting Russell in permanent guardianship. If any of this sounds familiar please contact me.Ei need to find my little man. #3
lisa Wilkinson - 7 months ago
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My name is Lisa Wilkinson. I relinquished my right to my 11 year-old son Dakota because I had become physically addicted to alcohol. I will be sober for one year on Feb. 27. I have no intention of disrupting Dakotas life yet again, I know where he is and the family that adopted him are Wonderful. The mom and I Were talking every so often, she even said we would talk much more after Dakota was completely out of state custody. I was blessed with a phone call from Dakota on Easter Sunday. He was worried about me and had been so persistent about Talking to me his Lisa (mom) allowed it. After the call all communication stopped. I have texted her and sent her two cards through the mail asking her to please forgive me for anything I may have done to offend her. Still nothing. I do not want to disrespect his new family or intrude in any way. I, like all us on this site, want to make sure Dakota is safe and healthy....etc. Does anyone have suggestions? Advice? A similar situation? I am looking #4
Valerie - 1 year ago
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I have a question concerning the private adoption of my son in 1977. I didn't have a lawyer, but the adoptive parents did; he was the one who told them I was pregnant,wanting to give my child a loving family. All aspects of adoption were handled by their lawyer, including the mother actually seeing me few times in lawyer's office; they were long time friends. Lawyer's letter states he was at the hospital for the birth, as well as the mother saying she was there. She claims she was "just outside the door" and also changed my son's last name to mine at the nurse's desk. How is that possible? What were my rights at that time? I'm wondering if the whole adoption was even completely legal. Wouldn't make difference now, but I'd like to know my child and I were treated fairly. Especially since the mother is trying to keep me from my son and granddaughter. Any help concerning 1977 Mississippi adoption laws is greatly appreciated. #5
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