Before Making Contact

Preparing yourself emotionally for making contact is an important step in the process and should not be overlooked. Understanding the impact this can have on you, your family, and the *found* family members will help prepare for any outcome.

Reunion: Hearts on the Line

Searching for birthfamily should be approached slowly and cautiously, with the understanding that tunnel vision, focused only on our own purpose, may lead us to ignore the impact of our actions on those we touch along the way.... [more]

Chosen Children's Charities, Inc.
If you have located birth family members and everyone agrees to a reunion but you require financial assistance, CCC may provide help if you can prove financial hardship.

5 Stages of Reunion
Briefly summarized from material in Jean Strauss' excellent book "Birthright: The Guide to Search and Reunion for Adoptees, Birthparents, and Adoptive Parents".

Before Contact
Birthmother Amy Bredes offers suggestions, advice, and things to consider before you make the call or mail the letter.

Happy Reunion and Relationship
Ten tips from Linda Back McKay, author of Shadow Mothers.

Preparing For Contact
You've decided to search, and you're thinking about reunion. Now it's important to look at things from your birthmother's standpoint. Some good advice from Amy Bredes.

"The Second Rejection"
A good article to read before reunion, by Marcy Axness. Axness addresses the "push/pull" that can often occur, as well as behaviors we may interpret as rejection.

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