Siblings & Differences

One Sibling's Behaviors

with Ronny Diamond, M.S.W.
Director, Spence-Chapin's Adoption Resource Center

Question: My daughter resents her brother because of his behaviors that go on. They are both fairly young. She wishes that we would've only adopted her instead of both of them. They are 1/2 bio siblings.
Ronny: What else is new? This is sibling rivalry. Wasn't I enough for you? It doesn't really matter if they're bio, 1/2 bio, or adopted siblings.

Question: Is there anything that I can do or say to help in this situation? He is very violent and aggressive. She loves her other sibling and would love more actually.
Ronny: Help her figure out how to deal with his behavior, and let her know she can share her feelings with you but her brother will always be in the family. You have to protect her from his aggression. Also, we can love people and not like their behaviors. It sounds like her resentment is appropriate. If so, let her have her feelings.

Thanks to all who participated!

• Page 1: Opening Remarks
• Page 2: Kept Siblings in Bio Family
• Page 3: Bio and Adopted Siblings
• Page 4: Open and Not-so-open Adoptions
• Page 5: One Sibling's Behaviors

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