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When we adopt, we both plan to work part-time, so we will not need to have our child in daycare. Vicki is excited about the opportunity to introduce a child to the wonders of nature around our home: watching the deer in the orchard, picking wild blackberries and making blackberry pies, planting vegetables and flowers in the garden, and of course, playing at the big community playground in Sebastopol. She has several friends close by with young children, who are awaiting our child's arrival as a new playmate.
Stu loves to teach children crafts - he's a gifted carpenter and woodworker himself, but is great at scaling down those projects to a child's size. He loves to dig in the dirt in the garden - and is eagerly awaiting a child to join him!
Our friends Maria, Joaquin & Will playing with Stu
If our child is a child of color, we plan to enroll him or her in a school with a significant number of children of color - in Santa Rosa, most likely. Vicki's relationships with a variety of immigrant communities: Black, Latino, Asian - as well as her African American friends and colleagues - will give our child many role models from their racial heritage.
We want to give our child a spiritual and religious upbringing - and how we would do that, or what church we would attend would probably depend on the child's background since we find value for ourselves in many congregations and religions. We will likely attend - or at least explore - the local Black Baptist Church if the child is African American. If the child is Latino, we have many friends at Catholic parishes with Hispanic ministries. We might become more active in the synagogue if the child perchance had a Jewish background. Most importantly, we want to give our child a deep sense of God's love and grace, and a deep pride and connection to his or her own religious heritage.
Vicki's young friends helping her at work
We believe every child deserves unconditional love and acceptance to flourish and become the person he or she is meant to be. We both believe this is the foundation of parenting. While we set limits and consequences for our children to teach them self discipline, we believe the greatest gift we can give is to teach them to love, value, and believe in themselves. To raise a child is a wonderful and profound challenge. To have ours be a child of color is a privilege. We are a stable, sensitive, and generous couple capable of providing the love and nurturing a child needs to have a happy childhood and the best possible opportunities in life. We dream of giving these gifts and giving ourselves to a child.
Click here to read about:The family on this webpage is working with Pact, An Adoption Alliance, a non-profit organization whose mission is to provide the highest quality adoption services to children of color. We would be happy to give you more information about them and adoption in general - please feel free to call us (ask for Marta Barton, one of our Adoption Coordinator and a birth parent herself who placed her first son for adoption in 1991) at (800) 750-7590.
Our primary client is the child. In order to serve the child, we address the needs of all the child's parents, by advising families facing a crisis pregnancy and by offering lifelong education to adoptive families and birth families on matters of race and adoption. Our goal is for every child to feel wanted honored and loved, a cherished member of a strong family with proud connections to the rich cultural heritage that is his or her birthright. Pact was incorporated in 1991 as a non-profit 501(c)(3) charitable organization.
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